Dating discrimination


I am being told that gender is a social construct but that sexuality and sexual attraction are inborn, and therefore not open to questioning. But then there is this:

Considering the discrimination trans people face on a daily basis, it comes as no surprise that trans people are overlooked when it comes to dating. Two Canadian researchers recently asked almost 1000 cisgender folks if they would date a trans person in a new study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. This is the first study to ever attempt to quantify the extent of trans discrimination when it comes to romantic and sexual relationships.


958 participants (all but seven cisgender, ranging in age from 18 to 81, with an average age of 26) were asked to indicate which genders they would consider dating. The options included cisgender man, cisgender woman, trans man, trans woman, or genderqueer, and participants could select as many genders as they wanted.

Only 12% of all participants selected “trans woman” and/or “trans man.”…


Virtually all heterosexuals excluded trans folks from their dating pool: only 1.8% of straight women and 3.3% of straight men chose a trans person of either binary gender. But most non-heterosexuals weren’t down for dating a trans person either, with only 11.5% of gay men and 29% of lesbians being trans-inclusive in their dating preferences. Bisexual/queer/nonbinary participants (these were all combined into one group) were most open to having a trans partner, but even among them, almost half (48%) did not select either ‘trans man’ or ‘trans woman.’


Of the seven participants who themselves identified as transgender or nonbinary, 89% were willing to date another trans person.

I have to remember that argument for the future reference: if you don’t want to date me, you’re discriminating against me. Which is of course true – when choosing partners everyone follows some list of preferences relating to some combination of characteristics like sexuality, age, ethnicity, appearance, socio-economic background, religion, politics, lifestyle, interests and hobbies, and so on. If some women only date tall guys and some guys only date younger women – because that’s what they are attracted to – why are we surprised that “cisgender” people won’t date trans people? After all, if a woman won’t go out with a short guy who identifies as tall, and a guy won’t go out with a 40 year old woman who identifies as a 20 year old, why would a man who is attracted to women date a man who identifies as a woman? Be that as it may, watch out for this growing trend as people with fewer options complain they’re victims of discrimination. Welcome to the dating Marxism; because it’s unfair that some have lots of admirers when others have none. We need to redistribute love for the sake of equality of outcomes.

And then there is this:

Romantic relationships are one of the most important sources of social support for adults. The fact that most cis people would not consider trans people as potential dating partners is yet another serious risk factor for increased psychological and physical health problems among the trans population.

It’s all your fault, you cis bigot.